Kodi kukonda zoseweretsa zamtengo wapatali ndi chizindikiro cha kusatetezeka?

Mphekesera:

Ana ambiri amakondazoseweretsa zapamwamba. Amawagwira akamagona, akamadya kapena akamapita kukasewera. Makolo ambiri amasokonezeka ndi zimenezi. Amaganiza kuti zimenezi zili choncho chifukwa ana awo sakonda kucheza ndi ana anzawo ndipo sangagwirizane ndi ana anzawo. Iwo akuda nkhawa kuti ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti ana awo alibe chitetezo. Iwo amaganiza kuti ngati sachitapo kanthu pa nthawi yake, n’zosavuta kuti ana awo akhale ndi makhalidwe oipa. Amayesa ngakhale njira iliyonse kuti ana awo "asiye" zoseweretsa zapamwambazi.

Kutanthauzira choonadi:

Ana ambiri amakonda zoseweretsa zamtengo wapatali. Amawagwira akamagona, akamadya kapena akamapita kukasewera. Makolo ambiri amasokonezeka ndi zimenezi. Amaganiza kuti zimenezi zili choncho chifukwa ana awo sakonda kucheza ndi ana anzawo ndipo sangagwirizane ndi ana anzawo. Iwo akuda nkhawa kuti ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti ana awo alibe chitetezo. Iwo amaganiza kuti ngati sachitapo kanthu pa nthawi yake, n’zosavuta kuti ana awo akhale ndi makhalidwe oipa. Amayesa ngakhale njira iliyonse kuti ana awo "asiye" zoseweretsa zapamwambazi. Kodi nkhawa ndi nkhawa zimenezi n'zofunikadi? Kodi tiyenera kuona bwanji kudalira kwa ana pa zidole zimenezi?

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"Abwenzi ongoyerekeza" amatsagana ndi ana ku ufulu

Kukonda zoseweretsa zamtengo wapatali sikukhudzana ndi malingaliro otetezeka

M'malo mwake, chodabwitsa ichi chimatchedwa "soft object attachment" ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, ndipo ndikuwonetsa kusintha kwa chitukuko cha ana. Kuona zoseweretsa zokometsera ngati “abwenzi awo ongoyerekezera” kungawathandize kuthetsa kusamvana pazochitika zina ndi malo, ndipo makolo sayenera kuda nkhaŵa kwambiri.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Donald Wincott anachita phunziro loyamba pa chodabwitsa cha ubwenzi wa ana ku chidole chofewa kapena chinthu, ndipo anatsimikiza kuti chodabwitsa ichi ali ndi tanthauzo kusintha kwa maganizo a ana. Anatchula zinthu zofewa zomwe ana amamangiriridwa ku "zinthu zosinthika". Ana akamakula, amakhala odziimira payekha m'maganizo, ndipo mwachibadwa amasamutsa chithandizo chamaganizo ichi kumadera ena.

Pakafukufuku wa Richard Passman, katswiri wa zamaganizo a ana pa yunivesite ya Wisconsin, ndi ena, anapezanso kuti chodabwitsa ichi cha "soft object attachment" ndi chofala padziko lonse lapansi. Mwachitsanzo, ku United States, Netherlands, New Zealand ndi mayiko ena, chiwerengero cha ana omwe ali ndi "soft object attachment" chafika 3/5, pamene deta ku South Korea ndi 1/5. Zikuoneka kuti n’kwachibadwa kuti ana ena azingokonda zoseŵeretsa zamtengo wapatali kapena zinthu zofewa. Ndipo nzoyenera kudziŵa kuti ambiri mwa ana ameneŵa amene amakonda zoseŵeretsa zokometsera samasowa chisungiko ndipo amakhala ndi unansi wabwino wa kholo ndi mwana ndi makolo awo.

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Akuluakulu amakhalanso ndi zovuta zodalira zinthu zofewa

Ndizomveka kuchepetsa kupanikizika moyenera

Koma ana amene amadalira kwambirizoseweretsa zapamwamba, kodi makolo ayenera kuwatsogolera motani? Nazi malingaliro atatu:

Choyamba, musawakakamize kusiya. Mutha kusokoneza chidwi chawo ku zoseweretsa zenizeni kudzera m'malo omwe ana ena amakonda; chachiwiri, kukulitsa zokonda zina za ana ndi kuwatsogolera kuti afufuze zinthu zatsopano, kuti pang'onopang'ono achepetse kukhudzidwa kwawo ndi zoseweretsa zamtengo wapatali; chachitatu, limbikitsani ana kutsanzikana kwakanthawi zinthu zomwe amakonda, kuti ana adziwe kuti pali zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa zomwe zikuyembekezera.

Ndipotu, kuwonjezera pa ana, akuluakulu ambiri amakhalanso ndi chiyanjano china ku zinthu zofewa. Mwachitsanzo, amakonda kupereka zidole zamtengo wapatali monga mphatso, ndipo sakana zidole zokongola zomwe zili m'makina a claw; mwachitsanzo, anthu ena amakonda ma pyjamas apamwamba kwambiri kuposa zida ndi nsalu zina. Amasankha masitayelo owoneka bwino a ma cushion pa sofa, zofunda pansi, ngakhalenso ma hairpins ndi ma foni am'manja ... chifukwa zinthu izi zimatha kupangitsa anthu kukhala omasuka komanso omasuka, komanso kukwaniritsa zotsatira za kupsinjika.

Mwachidule, ndikuyembekeza kuti makolo angaone molondola kudalira kwa ana awo pa zoseweretsa zamtengo wapatali, osadandaula kwambiri, komanso osawakakamiza kusiya. Atsogolereni mofatsa ndi kuthandiza ana awo kuti akule bwino. Kwa akuluakulu, malinga ngati sizikuchulukirachulukira komanso sizikhudza moyo wabwinobwino, kugwiritsa ntchito zinthu zina zofunika tsiku ndi tsiku kuti mukhale omasuka komanso omasuka ndi njira yabwino yochepetsera nkhawa.